WEDDING 101
PLEASE Pay Attention To This WARNING!
Picking YOUR Officiant
I Can't Say This Enough
For Every
One
VALID Officiant
On Facebook
Craig's List
or
ANY
Other Source
There Are
At LEAST
5
People Scamming YOU!!
All They Want
Is
YOUR
$$$$$!!!
VALID Officiants
In Pennsylvania:
Mayor (Active/Retired)
Magistrate (Active/Retired)
Judge (Active/Retired)
Ministers
Here's Where The Scam's START!
You Must Be
A REAL Minister!
That Means...
The Completion & Degree
From A REAL University or Seminary!
Universal Life-->NO!
American Marriage Ministry-->NO!
First Nation-->NO!
Etc.
FYI:
It Takes At
LEAST
4
YEARS
Of Study & TRAINING
To Become
A REAL Minister!
On-Line Ordinations
Are NOT Recognized
As VALID Officiants In PA!
They MUST Have
A Congregation
Or
Regularly Attended Church!
Now
What Does This
Mean To You???
It Means
YOUR Marriage
Is INVALID!
Your Money Was WASTED !
Your Marriage Is NOT Recognized By The State.
Planning On Children...?
Guess What...
The CHILD LEGALLY Retains
The MOTHERS "Sir Name"
Regardless Of What
The "Birth Certificate" Says!
[Legal FEES For Name Change For The Child START @ $800!!]
FINALLY
Pennsylvania
NO LONGER
Recognizes "Common Law" Marriages
WORST CASE SCENARIO
If / When The Marriage Fails...
You CAN NOT
Get A DIVORCE
From Someone
You Were NEVER
Married To!!
That Means
ALL The Money
YOU Put Toward
Your Home
Your Cars
Your ANYTHING Is--->LOST!
THERE IS
NO
EQUITABLE DISTRIBUTION
IF THERE ISN'T
A VALID MARRIAGE!!
Ask Questions!
SEE Credentials!
Be A
RESPONSIBLE
Consumer!
You're Engaged... Now What?
First...
YAY!
Congratulations!
Take A Minute To RELAX.
Enjoy The MOMENT.
CELEBRATE With Family & Friends.
Where Do WE Start? I Have NO Idea...
1st Things 1st! There's A "Right" Way To Start Planning YOUR Big Day...STOP Starting At The "End" & Working BACKWARD! Or As They Say...
COMMON SENSE Instructions For Planning...
Planning YOUR Wedding
This Is What NOT To Do...
Common Misconceptions
Question Popped
"Yes"
Date SET
Bridal Party Decisions
Venue
Color Scheme/Theme
Dress/Flowers/Catering
Attending
Ceremony Details
FINALLY Pick An OFFICIANT
Wrong.
WRONG!
WRONG!!!
The CORRECT Order
To Start Planning YOUR WEDDING
Pop The Question
Say "Yes"
Celebrate The Moment
Pick A "TENTATIVE" Date
Find An OFFICIANT
Available On THAT Date
Pick A VENUE Available
On THAT Date
Then & ONLY THEN...
SET THE DATE!
If I had a Quarter
For every couple
Who contacts me
In a "PANIC"
Trying To Find An Officiant
For A Wedding
That's been COMPLETELY planned...
Deposits Done...
(I'd have my island in Paradise!)
COMMON SENSE PEOPLE!!!
EVERY Wedding Has
3 ESSENTIAL Components!
A BRIDE
A GROOM
&
An OFFICIANT!
Without THOSE 3 Things...
Ain't NOTHIN' Happening
On ANY Day!
Who?
TENTATIVE Date Picked
The NEXT MOST IMPORTANT Detail:
Your "OFFICIANT!"
Pgh Blessed Events, of course...
Kidding.
If You're Considering Me...
Might Want To READ This First!(LINK)
Pick the "RIGHT" officiant for YOU.
It's NOT A
"ONE SIZE FITS ALL DEAL"
EACH "Officiant"
Brings Something
DIFFERENT To The Table.
Some Are Casual
&
Personable
Some Are More "Stiff"
Or
Traditional
Do You Want A
"Traditional"
Religious Ceremony?
That USUALLY Comes
Through A
Priest/Minister/Pastor
WITH A Church Affiliation.
Retired Or New "Officiants"
Are USUALLY More Flexible.
"Non-Denominational"
DOESN'T
Mean "NON-RELIGIOUS"
It Means They Don't
Hold To 1
Specific Religious Order
AND
Are FULLY Capable
Of Performing A Ceremony
From ANY Sect
INCLUDING Secular
CAREFUL HERE!
This Is Where Those
"On-Line" Ordained Ministers
Slide In WITHOUT
You Realizing It!
Make SURE
They Are
NOT
"On-Line" Ordained!
That crap don't fly in PA!
REALITY Sets In... YIKES!!!
Wedding Caos!
PLEASE
Words Of Wisdom
Because I've BEEN THERE...
DONE THAT!
A "Wedding Is ONE Day.
A "Marriage" is a LIFETIME.
Starting Out IN DEBT
For 1 Day
Will Put Your Marriage
"On The Rocks"
Sure as sh*t.
Personally.
I'd rather spend ALL that cash
On something
I'll REMEMBER...
Like the HONEYMOON or a house!
FYI:
In ALL Reality...
It's YOUR Big Day.
To EVERYONE Else
(EXCEPT For CLOSE Family & Friends)
It's JUST A "Party"
With FREE FOOD & BOOZE.
PLAN ACCORDINGLY.
Sadly,
You'll NEVER Get Out Of It
The Money You Put Into it...
That's Just A Fact.
*ONLY Invite people To your wedding Who WILL BE in your life 10 years from NOW. If someone gets "OFFENDED," Well. They WON'T be around anyway- WHO CARES!
START HERE!
What?
What kind of wedding do you want?
Better yet...
What kind of wedding can you AFFORD?
Formal wedding in a church?
Outdoor wedding?
Small intimate affair?
Once you figure out the "TYPE" of wedding you want;
Everything else follows suit.
Starting To Plan Your Perfect Ceremony(LINK)
PLEASE PAY ATTENTION! I UNDERSTAND YOU'RE EXCITED. BUT THINK ABOUT YOUR CHOICES! Inclusions are a nice way to PERSONALIZE YOUR Ceremony. It is NOT a candy store! I want this & this & this & this TOO! NO! IT DOESN'T WORK THAT WAY Inclusions Affect the "FLOW" Of the ceremony! Each inclusion causes: stop (inclusion) reset restart 1 Inclusion=PERFECT 2 Inclusions= (Possible, depends) 3 Inclusions= You're losing it. Pick what is MEANINGFUL to you as a COUPLE! Also... Common Sense & CONSISTENCY!!! Especially With "Themed" Weddings Please Pick "Inclusions" That ACCENT Not DETRACT From The Theme! *Example* If You're Having A Renaissance "Theme" DON'T Pick "The Apache Wedding Blessing" For Your Reading ~NOTE~ Please, If you want More than 2 inclusions... PLEASE Find another officiant. I don't want to be rude. I just take GREAT Pride In my Ceremonies. I REFUSE TO PRESIDE OVER A TRAIN WRECK Thank you for understanding.
When?
When & Where
Are interchangeable
&
Dependent on one another.
Spring?
Summer?
Fall/Autumn?
Winter?
*Best Laid Plans...
Remember YOU'RE IN PITTSBURGH.
The WEATHER is ALWAYS a factor;
Especially for an outdoor venue.
*Weather Planning Tips* April: "Showers" ALSO Include SNOW May:Early-More Like April; Middle To Late-USUALLY Nice June: It ALWAYS Rains For The "Pgh Arts Festival" July/August: They Call It The "Dog Daze" For a Reason You'll Be Sweatin'Puddy Balls! September: Summer-Like Days; Cooler Nights October: Perfect With Slight Chance of Rain. Folliage PEAKS the 7th-19th! Winter (November-March) Weddings Should Be INSIDE! *SPECIAL NOTE: Mt Washington Is ALWAYS Windy... Cooler Weather Is Just COLD Up There!
REALLY Cool Site To Find VENUE & Wedding STUFF! (LINK)
Where?
Now that you know what time of year you can start looking for a venue.
PLEASE.
Unless your "Wedding Date" has a significant meaning to you;
Don't set a "firm" date until you see if the venue you like is available.
FYI: Make sure your "Venue" fits the amount of people you're inviting!
Venues, Vendors & Visions(LINK)
Then you can start to fill in the other vendors.
It's TIME!!!
Pick A County... ANY County In Pennsylvania!
SORRY.
I Just Couldn't Help Myself.
This Pic Was Just TOO FUNNY!
This part is ALL up to You!
MOST Counties Have The
Marriage License Is AVAILABLE Online!
Filling It Out On Line
Will Save You BOTH
Time & Aggrevation!
Then...
You BOTH have to go to the License Office
With
2 Forms of ID
&
Fill out the rest
Of the information
IN PERSON!
They will inform you when it's available to be picked up.
USUALLY it's a 3 day waiting period...
Could take up to a week!
* Don't forget to get a "QUICK PIC" to remember the day!
ONE DAY AFTER;
NO GOOD!
* Tis The Season For Weddings In The 'Burgh.
"Register Of Wills & Clerk Of Orphans' Court"
In Allegheny County
Is OPEN
On Saturdays
THRU AUGUST!
Allegheny County Marriage License START HERE (LINK)
Thanks For The INFO Katlyn!
The BIG Day Has FINALLY Arrived!
RELAX. BREATHE. You Got This!
WEDDING CHECKLIST:
License
Rings
Kleenex
Bride
Groom
Flowers
LOVE
BREATHE!!!
I've ALWAYS found that
ONE
Of those LITTLE bottles Of "Jack"
Comes in REAL handy right NOW
For BOTH
The Bride
&
Groom!
THEN Breath Mints!
LOL
The Ceremony Takes Place
If you choose PBE~
Well. THANK YOU.
You're TOO Kind.
I Will Perform The Ceremony.
A Quick Pick Of The 3 Of Us...
Then You're Off To YOUR
The Parties OVER... NOW What?
Shew!!! It's OVER!
After The Ceremony...
I Take The License WITH ME.
I Will Do ALL
The Filling Out
&
Filing Documents
Within a WEEK
You SHOULD Receive
The "Keepsake License"
From Me In The Mail
ALONG With
Instructions On How
To Get The "Official" Copy
From The County.
That's It.
Please Stay In Touch!
Y'all Are Like Kin To Me Now.
I LOVE To Hear ALL About
Adventures,
Milestones
&
BABIES!!
I LOVE Adding To The "Peanut Section" Of The Bulletin Board!
For Dropping By & Considering Pgh Blessed Events!
I Wish You A Wonderful Life
FULL Of Love,
Adventures
&
MAGIC!!
Blessings From~
Reverend V
